Short life
3 months old girl passed away today....
she was the only daughter of my colleague,
she struggled with heart problems, among other problems, since her birth.
Today was the first time I see her, it was in pictures they took just a few days ago,
They finally took some pictures just on Sunday when she was doing better and all the tubes were taken out of her little body.
Her mum, my colleague's wife, said, through teary eyes , " she was doing so good in the last few days" ... " I was just holding her in my hands as she was crying from a diaper rash and I wanted to sooth her, she quietened a little, and then she........" the poor mother could not continue as she goes on crying her beloved little daughter, her first joy.
Such a short life,
the little poor girl was struggling from day one...
the doctors didn't want to perform on her from day one saying she was a hopeless case,
but her parents had hope she would survive,
and so she did,
it was amazing how she keeps on going every day,
every day the sun rose on that girl alive was a miracle,
we, all the lab, with multi nationalities and different beliefs, prayed for her to become better.
Her father's parents came all the way from India to help out with taking care of the little girl, she was on medications around the clock,
which was too much for her parents
both are researchers whose time is already limited.
I went to pay respects today to her parents,
I realized although we all express similarly our sadness,
our submission to God's will differs.
To endure and deal with the grief and overwhelming sadness of loss of the beloved ones, believing in God's will makes it a little easier to accept the fact that they are gone.
Yet my colleague and his wife and their parents were handling it very well for the first day.
This was a learning opportunity for me to understand more about reincarnation in Hindu belief.
I just wished they wouldn't be so sad about their loss being unfair for the little girl and unfair for them,
it is just God's will...those were my words, and that he gave you a gift or a trust and he took it back, and something good will come out of this.....
but I don't think my words were any condolence for them....
The sadness around me reminded me with a very old story in my culture and summarizes the Islamic belief about life and death. It is a story that always helped me through similar times when I lost my grandma, and my two beloved dear uncles.
It is told that one of the greatest believers in God, had a baby boy, who was very ill, her husband comes in every night from work and checks on the child and they try their best to sooth the baby's pain. One night, it was time, and the little boy passed away, the father came in, and asked about the child, the mother told him, he is resting, the father thought his baby must be doing better because he did not hear him cry, she told him just leave him tonight resting, he is fine now. The next morning she told her husband, if our neighbor gave you something precious to take care of it and keep it until he is back, he trusted you with this trust, now would not you do your best to take care of it, the husband answered, yes of course, and then she continued, and when he comes back and asks you for it, wouldn't you give it back.... then her husband nodded, as he understood that his child was gone. These two believers submitted to God's will and are still known up till now for their story, after the loss of their only child then, God granted them 11 (eleven) sons and daughters, all grew up to be strong believers and great men and women.....
submission is hard, but it helps.....
If we realize that we all belong to God*,
our life on this earth is a short journey,
we do our best to live every day to its fullness,
and to take care to spend it in usefulness of our minds, souls and bodies,
to have fun, to have rest, to work towards something that will benefit others as well as ourselves,
in brief.....to enjoy the "grant of life".
It is never easy to let go of the beloved ones,
especially when you realize that you are not meeting them again,
to ease it for myself when my uncle, who was so close to me, passed away,
I convinced myself that he was on a long trip,
and one day I will be with him again,
growing up, yes I believe I will, and hopefully it will be in heavens.
It is so difficult to deal with every day things after losing the beloved ones,
small things like calling after a football game to say hey, we won,
or picking up playing cards in a store to challenge him a cards game on Friday when we met weekly,
or to forget that he would not show up for your next birthday, neither when you are planning your wedding...
Submission to God's will is such a difficult exam that we all go through when we face death of a dear one.....
May God be with my colleague and his family through their difficult time.
May His words (Quran: sura 2, aya 152 to 157) bring comfort to those who lost the dear ones.
God says what means the following in English:
[152] Remember Me; I will remember you. Be grateful to Me and do not reject Faith in Me. [153] Seek help with patient Perseverance and Prayer: for Allah is with those who patiently persevere....[155] Be sure We shall test you with ......... loss in goods or lives ........ but We will give glad tidings to those who patiently persevere.
[156] Who say, when afflicted with calamity: *"To Allah we belong, and to Him is our return". [157] They are those on whom (descend) blessings from their Lord, and Mercy, and they are the ones that receive guidance.
she was the only daughter of my colleague,
she struggled with heart problems, among other problems, since her birth.
Today was the first time I see her, it was in pictures they took just a few days ago,
They finally took some pictures just on Sunday when she was doing better and all the tubes were taken out of her little body.
Her mum, my colleague's wife, said, through teary eyes , " she was doing so good in the last few days" ... " I was just holding her in my hands as she was crying from a diaper rash and I wanted to sooth her, she quietened a little, and then she........" the poor mother could not continue as she goes on crying her beloved little daughter, her first joy.
Such a short life,
the little poor girl was struggling from day one...
the doctors didn't want to perform on her from day one saying she was a hopeless case,
but her parents had hope she would survive,
and so she did,
it was amazing how she keeps on going every day,
every day the sun rose on that girl alive was a miracle,
we, all the lab, with multi nationalities and different beliefs, prayed for her to become better.
Her father's parents came all the way from India to help out with taking care of the little girl, she was on medications around the clock,
which was too much for her parents
both are researchers whose time is already limited.
I went to pay respects today to her parents,
I realized although we all express similarly our sadness,
our submission to God's will differs.
To endure and deal with the grief and overwhelming sadness of loss of the beloved ones, believing in God's will makes it a little easier to accept the fact that they are gone.
Yet my colleague and his wife and their parents were handling it very well for the first day.
This was a learning opportunity for me to understand more about reincarnation in Hindu belief.
I just wished they wouldn't be so sad about their loss being unfair for the little girl and unfair for them,
it is just God's will...those were my words, and that he gave you a gift or a trust and he took it back, and something good will come out of this.....
but I don't think my words were any condolence for them....
The sadness around me reminded me with a very old story in my culture and summarizes the Islamic belief about life and death. It is a story that always helped me through similar times when I lost my grandma, and my two beloved dear uncles.
It is told that one of the greatest believers in God, had a baby boy, who was very ill, her husband comes in every night from work and checks on the child and they try their best to sooth the baby's pain. One night, it was time, and the little boy passed away, the father came in, and asked about the child, the mother told him, he is resting, the father thought his baby must be doing better because he did not hear him cry, she told him just leave him tonight resting, he is fine now. The next morning she told her husband, if our neighbor gave you something precious to take care of it and keep it until he is back, he trusted you with this trust, now would not you do your best to take care of it, the husband answered, yes of course, and then she continued, and when he comes back and asks you for it, wouldn't you give it back.... then her husband nodded, as he understood that his child was gone. These two believers submitted to God's will and are still known up till now for their story, after the loss of their only child then, God granted them 11 (eleven) sons and daughters, all grew up to be strong believers and great men and women.....
submission is hard, but it helps.....
If we realize that we all belong to God*,
our life on this earth is a short journey,
we do our best to live every day to its fullness,
and to take care to spend it in usefulness of our minds, souls and bodies,
to have fun, to have rest, to work towards something that will benefit others as well as ourselves,
in brief.....to enjoy the "grant of life".
It is never easy to let go of the beloved ones,
especially when you realize that you are not meeting them again,
to ease it for myself when my uncle, who was so close to me, passed away,
I convinced myself that he was on a long trip,
and one day I will be with him again,
growing up, yes I believe I will, and hopefully it will be in heavens.
It is so difficult to deal with every day things after losing the beloved ones,
small things like calling after a football game to say hey, we won,
or picking up playing cards in a store to challenge him a cards game on Friday when we met weekly,
or to forget that he would not show up for your next birthday, neither when you are planning your wedding...
Submission to God's will is such a difficult exam that we all go through when we face death of a dear one.....
May God be with my colleague and his family through their difficult time.
May His words (Quran: sura 2, aya 152 to 157) bring comfort to those who lost the dear ones.
God says what means the following in English:
[152] Remember Me; I will remember you. Be grateful to Me and do not reject Faith in Me. [153] Seek help with patient Perseverance and Prayer: for Allah is with those who patiently persevere....[155] Be sure We shall test you with ......... loss in goods or lives ........ but We will give glad tidings to those who patiently persevere.
[156] Who say, when afflicted with calamity: *"To Allah we belong, and to Him is our return". [157] They are those on whom (descend) blessings from their Lord, and Mercy, and they are the ones that receive guidance.
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